He said he wasn’t “really mormon” now he’s saying he is. #UNFAIR | Ask Angela

Previously Posted on the Deseret News

Dear Angela,

I met this guy on a dating website (not an LDS-specific one — I’m not LDS anymore) and he’s really great. We’ve been dating for about two months and religion has only come up a few times. When we first met he told me that he was raised Mormon and he believes in God, but he’s not interested in dealing with the rules that accompany religion in general — we’re pretty much the same that way, similar backgrounds, similar conclusions about things.

I really thought we were on the same page.

Last week, however, he told me that he feels confused because he’s “falling in love with me” and if we get married he wants to “get married in the temple” and “would I be OK with that?”

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Why Won’t My Pastor Speak To Me At Church? | Ask Angela

hellowDEAR ANGELA,

My pastor doesn’t speak to me. I come into church and he’s holding court with everyone, shaking their hands, and patting them on the back while I go unnoticed. How can I trust someone to be my spiritual leader when he can’t even say hello? I know I can’t be the only person who has ever felt this way. Advice?

HelloPolice

 

Dear HelloPolice,

I really like your sign-off name and I’d like to volunteer to join this particular police force. :) Saying hello is one of the easiest/best ways to develop new and strengthen current relationships.

Share your thoughts with your Pastor, he probably doesn’t even realize his lack of speaking is upsetting you. So a simple, “Pastor, we don’t speak to each other on a regular basis and I’d like to change that” should do the trick.

Love,

Angela

This Engagement Is A Fake, Please Stop Lying | Ask Angela

DEAR ANGELA:

My coworker bought herself an engagement ring and is telling everyone that this guy named “Michael” who she has been “dating” for 7 years “proposed” to her. It’s a lie. She’s had that ring for at least a year and she originally told me she found it on the floor of a Cracker Barrel. (In hindsight I don’t know if that version of the story is true, either.) I want to confront her – but I’m not sure how. What’s a good way to say, “Hey your fiancé is imaginary and so are your upcoming nuptuals!”

Coworker

Dear Coworker, 

Wow.

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 Yeah, people usually lie like that when they are unhappy and lonely. Either leave her alone…the lie will unravel on it’s own, or reach out and see if some real attention from a real human being will help soothe whatever is making her sad/crazy.

But also be careful.

Love, 

Angela

No Sex Before Marriage Is Too Old Fashioned For Me | Ask Angela

DEAR ANGELA: 

I’m 28 and I think the idea of “No sex before marriage” sounds nice but it’s not realistic at my age. Non mormon guys don’t want to wait, and personally I think it’s a very important part of marriage and I’m not sure that I’m comfortable marrying someone who I’ve never slept with before. That to me is a recipe for disaster. How can I be a successful dater (sex is necessary) and true to my religion?

Single

Dear Single,

My little sister sent me this talk today from the LDS.org website. I want to share a quote with you from it:

Screen Shot 2014-09-17 at 6.46.26 PM So, I hear what you’re saying about sex, but what do you think about this quote? Discipleship first…

Write back, I want to know your thoughts!

Love, 

Angela

Man Gets His Life Together; Friends Don’t like it; “He’s Changed” | Ask Angela

Change is good, keep friendship alive!

Change is good, keep friendship alive!

DEAR ANGELA:
I used to live a rough life. It’s been about a year now and I’m finally going back to church, being there for my kid, and keeping a steady job. It’s been tough but I’m proud of myself, and it’s the first time I’m really able to say that. I’ve got 2 friends who are like brothers to me and they’re not feeling too happy about me changin’ on ‘em. They keep saying stuff like, “we knew you’d change” “you’re not the same dude” etc., I’m not really trying to spend time with these guys anymore because it’s not what it used to be. What could I say to them to help them see things from my perspective and accept the new me?

GodB4Bros

Dear GodB4Bros,

Tell them of course you’ve changed, you’ve worked too hard and the stakes were too high for you to just stay the same. Your kid? Your God? You felt like they deserved a better version of you – if your friends are really brothers they’ll come around.

Love,
Angela

This person quit their job and wants to stick it to their boss | Ask Angela

Quitting the right way is an investment.

Quitting the right way is an investment.

DEAR ANGELA: I finally got a new job! (Which feels impossible in Chicago) My boss made me miserable for 3 long years and I want to leave in a way that’s not too extreme, but let’s them know how glad I am to be getting out of there. Any ideas?

Free At Last!

Dear Free At Last!

Can I give you some advice? This world is suuuper small, and you’ll probably run into these people again (if not professionally then definitely socially.) You don’t want that future/inevitable encounter to be weird so leave graciously. Give your brutal boss a thank you note, smile broadly but humbly and only speak highly of your experience there. So when you find out that one of your co-workers is secretly the Prince of Abu dhabi and Beyonce is going to be performing at his birthday bash…you can still expect an invite. Know what I mean?

Love,

Angela

Girl Complains: “I’m Jealous Of My Roommate”| Ask Angela

 

picjealousDEAR ANGELA:

How do I stop being jealous of my roommate? She has a date every weekend, her parents pay all her bills, and she doesn’t have a care in the world. It’s not fair, I’m beginning to legitimately hate her, and I know that’s not fair either. Advice?

Green Eyed-Roomie

Dear Green Eyed-Roomie,

“In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can’t see” – Church Hymn

Sometimes you have to sing a hymn like this when jealousy starts to make you hate people. Not because remembering that they have struggles should make you happy, but because remembering they’re human like you will soften your feelings towards them. I’m sure your life looks perfect to somebody…but you know it’s not, and you just want people to be nice to you and to love you. Your roommate is the same. I promise.

Love, 

Angela

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