- If you spell something wrong it totally devalues the legitimacy of your argument
- Screen shots go viral and then you can’t run for president
- People aren’t trying to read all of your feelings like that
Dear Angela: I’m not an active member of the church of my youth and my brother is. Because of this fact my mom calls him more, brags about him more, and clearly favors him. Do they teach this parenting behavior at church? I doubt it! He may be the golden child, but I’m still her daughter and I matter, too. I wish I didn’t care, but I do – help?
Dear Baby Girl,
These are sad feelings and I’m sorry you’re having them.
You gotta stop comparing your relationships to other peoples relationships. Channel and transform that “I’m so bothered” energy into creating new a positive experiences with your mom. And even be deliberate about that, “Mom, I feel like because our belief systems are different we’re not as close as we could be. Would you be open to working on this with me?”
(Notice I didn’t add any like “you treat Joey better than me…you should be acting like a better Christian” in there because those are productive discussion topics.)
Family relationships are so worth the effort, hope this helps.
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This happens to me every now and again. I’ll wake up with an onslaught of really negative thoughts: “You’re wasting your life” “Time is running out” “You’ll never be a wife or a mother” “What are you EVEN doing??”
Yeah, scary stuff.
In the past, I’ve let these thoughts completely ruin my day. Here are 4 things you can do to turn that bad mood around:
Pray and/or meditate – These thoughts might be showing up in place of something else. Are you in an unhealthy relationships? Are you feeling bad about how you’re treating a family member? Have you been less active from church and neglecting your spiritual responsibilities? Bad thoughts sometimes show up when we know we’re not doing something we’re supposed to. Spend sometime figuring out what that is.
Eat something or go back to sleep – 94% of my bad moods are because I’m hungry or tired. Sometimes you just weren’t ready to get up.
Make a plan – If something is nagging you this morning, that was nagging you yesterday and the day before…you’ve got to make a plan to change it. Set a date for when thing will be different and every day do something towards that goal.
Do something for someone else – These thoughts really may just be the devil trying to bring us down. Fortify your mind by engaging in Christlike activities. The quickest way to do that is by any act of service for anyone.
These are a few to try – what do you typically do when you wake up angry? Share in the comments and join the Ask Angela Facebook community.
The best way to survive a blizzard is to eat a lot of food and watch a lot of Netflix. The best way to survive after a blizzard is to mind your manners – especially where automobiles are concerned.
Writing this on the off chance that my neighbor (and perhaps your neighbor needs this message too) is reading this.
Sundays are a great day to reflect, think about the health of your soul, and remind someone that they are important to you.
So…who are you going to call?
Been learning recently that this is a key to life and to business. Success isn’t as meaningful unless you can share it, and it doesn’t happen as quickly when you make it all about you.
I know this is true, but why do you think this is?