Day 7 – God and Goal Setting

I learned something about God and goal setting today (because I missed the mark on some plans I made this past week.) It’s important to set your goals and let God know what they are. No matter how well (or not well) you do with them, it’s also important to report back to him about how everything went. 

“Yeah, duh Angela, thanks for telling us things we already know.”

Okay yeah I know this is a well documented principle, BUT, God does more for us than just help us stay accountable. He gives encouragement, too, and helps us forgive ourselves for slip ups. 

Have you ever made a goal and when you messed up? It was like “forget it I’m terrible I can never do this.” Well when we set goals with God and make him our partner, he helps us understand that we’re human and helps us to keep progressing forward. That’s what it’s all about: progression before perfection.

Oh, what a pair we’ll be
The Wizard and I;
Yes, what a pair we’ll be
The Wizard and…

Unlimited
My future is unlimited
And I’ve just had a vision
Almost like a prophecy
I know – it sounds truly crazy
And true, the vision’s hazy
But I swear, someday there’ll be
A celebration throughout Oz
That’s all to do with me!

And I’ll stand there with the Wizard,
Feeling things I’ve never felt
And though I’d never show it,
I’d be so happy, I could melt!
And so it will be
For the rest of my life,
And I’ll want nothing else
Till I die
Held in such high esteem
When people see me, they will scream
For half of Oz’s favorite team;
The Wizard
And I!

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Day 5 – Love Your Body

I win for the most cliché blog title.

But I wanted to tell you guys a quick story.

I met this guy and thought I could marry him. In fact, even still I am not completely over it BUT, when we ended things he said one of the main reasons he wasn’t feeling it was because of my weight.

 :(

So intellectually speaking, that type of comment should make you hate the person who said it. Right? But for me it didn’t work like that. I really resented my body and myself, “Why’d I let myself get so out of shape?” “Wish these weren’t here (love handles)” “Maybe if my arms looked like this he’d be interested…”

And so on and so forth forever.

But lately, even though I’m still hung up on this guy, I’ve been working out and eating well and I am developing a love for my body. I think any time we make an effort to take care of something (our bodies, our finances, our home, our car) even if it’s over weight, old, small, etc., We will develop a greater love for it.

I am experiencing that first hand, and the scale hasn’t change yet at all.

So my challenge to you today is to think of something you are/or you own that isn’t perfect, and list the reasons why it’s still great. Then make a plan to care for it as best as you can.

I promise as you do this you’ll enjoy some of the same feelings I’m experiencing (gratitude, peace and hope!)

Let me know how it goes!

Love,

Angela

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Day 4 – Stuffed Crust Pizza

I’ve not spoken about this too in depth here on this blog but I’ve decided to because I think there may be other Ask Angela readers who in addition to everything else they’ve got going on, are seeking to live a healthier life. 

I’m 4 days deep into my journey and find myself thinking/dreaming/and somehow smelling stuffed crust pizza! :)

Halfway kidding, but to be honest eating “clean” has proven to be easier than I thought. Like the articles suggest, I’ve started by having breakfast as my largest meal and while I cook, I watch a conference talk, and while I eat, I read the scriptures. 

So far, the scale hasn’t changed, but I feel more spiritually uplifted taking care of my body and also my spirit. 

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Love, 

Angela

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My Boss Is Terrible; I’m Her New Visiting Teacher; Ugh! | Ask Angela

Jan Levinson

Dear Angela,
My boss is a brutal tyrant, she also happens to be the sister I’m assigned to visit teach. I don’t want to see her at work let alone during my free time. How do I get out of this?

Employee

Dear Employee,

You can get out of it really easily by telling your RS president that you’re uncomfortable visiting teaching her. That’s super easy. What’s not easy but will make you a better person is to visit her, serve her, and learn to love her. Difficult people are usually difficult because they feel left out or unloved, maybe you provide some relief to her and she becomes more manageable at work.

Keep us in the loop!

Love,
Angela

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How to change your life with 3 simple questions

Screen Shot 2015-01-14 at 9.07.24 PMInstead of thinking of every little thing you have to do, getting over whelmed, and deciding to Netflix binge on Blue Bloods (Angela loves Danny4Lyfe) Ask yourself these simple questions to start improving just a few areas of your life. Don’t go too crazy, just keep it simple. 

I’m applying it to weightloss and writing. What about you? 

Love, 

Angela

ps. My little brother (who recently returned from his mission) shared these tips with me this morning. #grateful

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Fighting With My Co-Worker; Its Her Fault | Ask Angela

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Dear Angela,

My co-worker/friend and I got into a big fight last week. She repeated something I said to her in confidence to upper level management and it made me look bad. I confronted her about it and she insisted it wasn’t a bad thing. I told her I was done and I did not want to speak to her again. We didn’t talk for four days and then today she came over to my desk as if nothing happened; trying to be all buddy, buddy again. Obviously, she wants to be friends again and the whole thing has really blown over but what she did was wrong and I think honestly it’s inappropriate for us to be so loose with each other about how we feel about the job. Should I just let this one slide? Or am I justified in my annoyance.

NotLettingItGo

Dear NotLettingItGo,

Forgive her because why not? If it’s blown over it’s not a big enough deal to disrupt your work peace. Just don’t tell her anything important about anything ever again.

Love,

Angela

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Why no one should really be talking about sex, LDS or not (Reader’s Email)

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I get lots of email responses to the Ask Angela column (if you’re new to the blog you can read past articles here) here’s one I thought you all might be interested in reading. When I initially responded to this question my intent was to leave the issue of “sleazy” comments or “inappropriate” gifts out of it. After all, it’s so subjective. One person’s sleazy is another person’s every day conversation – ya know? So the point I wanted to make was in any situation, if you feel uncomfortable, you can be polite, but still excuse yourself from the occasion. If a bridal shower/party/family dinner/ or whatever is uncomfortable you can leave.

But I got a lot of responses about how the “Latter-Day Saint community doesn’t know how to address sex …can’t believe you’re wasting your time as a member” or “Shame on you for pushing your own agenda”(huh?) or even one email that said, “My sex life is great! Just thought you should know.”

okay

Still, everyone has an opinion and that’s cool, but yeah like I said, I thought the email below was particularly interesting and wonder what you all think.

Angela, I really appreciated that you used the letter you did and responded the way you did about the bridal showers. I was saddened and bothered by so many of the comments made in response to it and how few people there are my age (or any age) that really understand this that have the ability to communicate it.

I have been married twice and they are such opposite experiences that it has given me an amazing perspective on intimacy whether people are religious or not. 

My first marriage was rough. I was her second husband, and she’d had a child out of wedlock that had been placed for adoption. She was in a “good place” when we met and began dating. I had struggled with a porn/masturbation problem as a young man but had learned how to abstain for several years. When we got married, our past experiences combined for a poor relationship regarding intimacy. It “worked” and we were intimate, but it was emotionally clumsy and often frustrating and unfulfilling for both of us. We argued about it probably more than any other aspect of our marriage. My porn problem came back, Continue reading