Angela: So, why don’t you tell us in your own words what happened?
Girl: It’s a very long story. The nutshell version is that another woman in my church congregation pulled me aside and asked me not to make so many comments in Sunday School because her “less active friend” feels like my comments are overbearing and that they ruin the spirit of the lesson.
Angela: ::Jaw drop::
Angela: Okay. So, a million questions – first, how did she approach you? Did she just walk up to you in the hall? Tap you on the shoulder before class started? You need to say everything that happened.
Girl: It was in pretty casual conversation, in the one breath she was telling me, “Thank you so much for bringing up women in the Priesthood in Sunday School because someone needed to be brave enough to say what I said in class.” Then she said oh by the way my less active friend feels like – what I said above.
Angela: Wow. Okay, can I play devil’s advocate?
Angela: How many comments would you say on average you give during a class?
Girl: As many as I feel to give. I’m not of the opinion that you need to limit what you need to say. If you raise your hand and the teacher calls on you then that’s the teacher’s issue?
Angela: Well, I don’t know. Do you feel like your comments are overbearing?
Girl: I like to be intellectual in class. I feel like a lot of people will raise their hands and give really primary answers like, “Read your scriptures.” Or, “I think we’re children of God so we can do anything.” Yes, those things are true but why aren’t we thinking more deeply about the gospel. If I’m the only one who is willing to say the things that matter, then yes, you’ll hear from me quite a bit during class.
Angela: Well, that’s definitely a perspective worth discussing. What are you hoping to hear from those who read this interview?
Girl: I want to know how they would have handled the situation of someone (a quasi-friend) requesting that you stop commenting in class so much because it’s driving her friend towards inactivity. I think they’ll side with me completely. It will be interesting to see.
Angela: Yeah, it will be. Thanks so much for sharing your story! I’m anxious to see what other think
I’ve definitely been in lessons where I felt like someone was just being “too much,” (however you want to define too much.) But I don’t think I’d ever, ever, ever say something.
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