*** “Attentive Dad” submitted this week’s Ask Angela article. Read it here.***
There is a single sister in my ward who has recently returned to church after being less-active for a few years. My wife and I are always happy to see new people in our ward, but I’m concerned about the immodesty of her clothing. I have teenage sons who are already bombarded with inappropriate images of women every day, and I’d like church to remain a safe haven for their eyes and their minds. How could I approach this sister about her manner of dress?
Angela: Thanks for your submission! Modesty seems like it’s always a hot topic, so I’m glad we get to chat about it.
Attentive Dad: You’re welcome. My wife and I love these “Ask Angela” discussions and I wanted to know what you and others would think of my topic.
A: So you’re wondering if you should approach an immodestly dress woman at church – for the sake of your kids?
A DAD: Not if, but how. I feel like it’s my duty as a father to protect my children (both physically and spiritually) and I want to do that, but not at the expense of someone else. I would never want to hurt this woman’s feelings. But, I do want to voice my concerns. It’s difficult to be tactful.
A: How is this woman a threat to your sons?
A DAD: Her way of dressing is inappropriate. I want my sons to be able to go to church and not see the same things they see plastered on every magazine at the grocery store, every billboard ad, I want them to have a break from women dressing suggestively.
A: Okay, I should have asked this first – what are the outfits that you feel are endangering your sons?
A DAD: Ha Ha! I’m not very good at speaking “fashion” but they’re tight, low cut dresses, sometimes with see through patches. Not typical church attire.
A: Interesting. Let me ask you this, would you rather this woman come to church dressed immodestly or not come at all?
A DAD: I would like her to come to church when she is prepared to dress modestly. We have a responsibility to the young and impressionable youth. Let’s all work together to create a safe space for them.
A: Okay, well I am looking forward to responding to your question. Check the Deseret News for an answer!