How would you answer this question?
My name is not important, my situation to me is. I have been married for almost 21 years now in a marriage that is full of hate, spite and no love whatsoever.
My religion frowns on divorce. We can work it out they say. Families are eternal.
If this is what eternity is like then I do not want any part of it!
I wake up in the morning not wanting to see my wife because of the hatred she has for me. No good morning, how are you. It has been almost 18 years since she has come up to me to give me a hug and tell me she loves me. She tells me that if I want a hug then I have to go to her. When she or I leave the house I make sure that I go to her to say goodbye and that I love her and she grunts.
My wife is happiest when she is unhappy. She has a black cloud around her all the time. I try to do things that she wants to do. I spend time with her even though I am tired and exhausted from work. I cannot do enough to make her happy. I am a failure in her eyes.
I want out! I used to be happy. If I try to make friends she states that I do not want to be with her and gets upset.
At church she ignores me and the members see it and it is embarrassing especially when you are the leader of the congregation.
We have a 18 year old child who is heading off to college. My child is “running” away to college to get away from the control freak that the child’s mother is. My child wants some freedom which I agree my child needs.
What should I do? Who can I turn to for help, support, and/or peace?
Loveless in the Midwest
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