Tip #33: Don’t get mad when someone asks your questions or challenges your thinking. It’s an opportunity for you to refine your thoughts or add to them. | The Ask Angela Column


Tip #32: Do something and see Abolitionists the movie | Ask Angela

I went to see The Abolitionists last night – it’s a documentary about Tim Ballard and his team of abolitionists who are fighting to end the trafficking of children. 

For me, it was a moving film. I was moved by how much Ballard involved his faith in his quest as well as the ability of young rescued children to still find meaning and hope in their lives after enduring such terrible circumstances. 

I was also moved by the facts about how large the problem is – Human trafficking is the fastest growing international crime you can read more here.

Like most people in the audience I left the movie thinking a variety of things – 

  1. How can I help? Like, help for real?

  2. Even if I did help, would that help make a difference?

  3. Are my problems even real?? Comparatively speaking?

I don’t have answers for these, I’m still thinking. But a very powerful thought that I had all night last night was the idea that while we can’t do everything, we can do something. And a big and powerful focus of our lives can be to do something. This applies to challenges as large and as pervasive as human trafficking, but it also applies to the simple struggles that you face in your daily life. Maybe it all can’t be changed, fixed, or improved at once. But you can still do something. 

So what do you want to do?

Share your thoughts in the comments, and I’ll see you tomorrow!




Explore Different Talents on Saturdays | The Ask Angela Column

This thought just came to mind because today I wrote a rap verse and then recorded myself  “rapping” (read: talking and pretending I was Lauryn Hill and feeling so good about it.)

Why was I doing this? Because I’d finished all my other tasks for the day and I wondered if I could. I’ll attach the audio for you to hear, but the lesson that I learned was that it’s a best practice to wonder to yourself, “what am I capable of?”

We literally have no idea what our physical and mental limitations are – so why not set aside at least one day a week where we try to test those limits? And stretch whatever perceived boundaries we have?

I’m going to start trying this. What do you think you’d try first?

Leave your thoughts in the comments section.





Thoughts to help you love your job

heartThink about your job as a learning experience that you’re getting paid for.

Ask yourself: who can I met during this learning experience? What skill can I master? What can I create? What difficult personalities can I learn to navigate? Who can I take with me?

Commit yourself to participate in something extra (a panel discussion, a volunteer activity, a project outside of your team) at least once a quarter.

that your job is not your life. It is a part of your life for the amount of time that you feel is appropriate. Enjoy what you can gain from it and view everything as a learning experience.




4 Tips: Making New Friends

It’s hard. Try these: 


  1. Take one of the things you like doing by yourself and sign up to do it with other people. If working out is your thing, join a spin class, if singing is your thing, join a choir. You get it.

  2. Think positive thoughts about yourself. It’s hard to have the courage to talk to other people (yes for some of us it takes courage!) if swirling in your mind are thoughts like, “I’m not fun,” “I’m a bad conversationalist,” “He/she probably doesn’t want to talk to me,” “Why am I here??” “They must think  I’m weird because I’m not drinking.” Be positive about yourself. 

  3. Go when you’re invited placed. It’s like a rock and a hard place right? You don’t want to go because you don’t know anyone, but you need to go because you don’t know anyone…so what do you do? I’ll solve it for you: Go. The worst thing that can happen is that you’re uncomfortable for 5 minutes and then you find an excuse to get something out of your car and leave. The best thing that could happen is that you make some great new friends. 

  4. Siblings = Friends. I’m sure there are some only children reading this so replace sibling with “family.” The thought here is that your siblings have friends, tag along with them til you start to make your own. And if they don’t have friends either, go be social together. It’s easier when you’ve got a wing-sibling.


We could add a lot more to this list but here are our top 4. What do you do? Do you have a wing-sibling?